I will never forget the day when my daughter said to her father that she did not trust him. Her words pierced me to my core and forced me to examine what I was demonstrating to her in my relationship with my husband. So allow me to back up for a minute and explain how this came about.
One day, my husband came home and suggested that we should have family night at the movies. At the time, I was pregnant and not really feeling like going out but went ahead with this plan anyway. After arriving, we walked arm in arm toward the theater and I saw some trash on the ground so I decided I would pull us around it. (Mind you...I was in the middle of our arm chain trying to lead!) Also, that same night as we were leaving, my husband guided us toward an exit and I asked if it was an emergency exit. It was at this moment that my daughter stated those heart-wrenching words.
After reflecting during the ride home and getting confirmation from a phone call with my cousin, the Holy Spirit showed me that I had issues with submission. Now I know this word, especially for women, is one that leaves a bad taste. (Who wants to feel like a doormat anyway, right?) But what the Holy Spirit was trying to show me was if I can not trust my husband to lead our family than how could I trust in God?
This revelation really inspired me to check my heart as well as my actions. So I started to research more on this topic and came across a definition on Dictionary.com that defines submission as to defer to another's judgment, opinion, decision, etc. This made so much sense when examining Ephesians 5:22 KJV which says "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord." God was showing me that in order for him to be King in my life, I would need to move aside and let go of the control I was so desperately holding on to. He was also showing me that I needed to learn to trust my husband as the leader of our home because our daughter was watching.
Many times we treat God this way by trying to fix situations that arise rather than seek His thoughts or His solution first. For many of us who feel the need to be in control, stepping aside to allow God to work things out in our lives can feel like a painful process. But we must not fail to remember the Bible states in Proverbs 3: 5-6 KJV "Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths." This means we must be willing to submit to His way and to His will even if it does not fully make sense to us.
For some unknown reason, we tend to forget that God is the Alpha and Omega. The one who created the heavens and the earth. So He must have a plan for us, right? This is confirmed in Jeremiah 29:11 KJV "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end." Think about the word expected for a moment...Dictionary.com defines it as to anticipate the occurrence of. So God knows the outcome of where he wants to lead us to. The final question I leave you with is...are you willing to submit to Him?