Has anyone ever assumed something about you? Was it something true or was it something completely false? Many times when people believe something they take it as the truth, whether the information is right or wrong. I have had my share of different things people have assumed about me over the years. Everything from "I thought you were shy and quiet" to "I thought you had a baby while in college and that is why you dropped out."
I wrestled with the Holy Spirit about writing on this topic because I still deal with this in my life. But what sparked the desire to write about this was a recent conversation with my mother where she told me that I appeared happiest on a day that was actually during a painful time in my life. What she did not know was the hurt, sadness, and disappointment I was hiding behind my smile that day when she saw me.
So here is the back story. At the time, my husband and I were experiencing a rough patch in our marriage. Mainly old sins were creeping back into our lives which resulted in both us questioning why did we get married in the first place. The day my mother and I met up was the day after I chose not to cry anymore about my marriage but to pray instead. So in my prayer time, I asked God for the strength to not look like the battle I was fighting, and sure enough, I was able to muster up a smile which in turn transformed my whole demeanor. Now back to the conversation with my mother, I found myself beginning to agree with her and even started to believe her opinions of that season of my life. But God quickly reminded me that we had two completely different perceptions of that particular day and to be careful about accepting others assumptions about my life as my truth.
See, I am the type of person who takes what my loved ones and friends say to heart. I take it in and believe it as truth no matter what because they are close to me and know me better than other people. I have found on my journey of faith that being this way can sometimes get me off track because I will place the input of others higher than God. I am reminded that Jeremiah 17:5 KJV says "Thus saith the Lord; Cursed be the man that trusteth in man, and maketh flesh his arm, and whose heart departeth from the Lord." The Holy Spirit has had to remind me to take things that people say about or to me and make sure to "rightly divide" it. If it does not line up with what God says, then it needs to be cast down. We are living in a time where we need to focus on God and his thoughts about us more than ever. We must be careful not to allow others assumptions, rather true or false, to separate us from our Heavenly Father. So if you struggle with this, I encourage you to reflect on Proverbs 29:25 KJV which says "The fear of man bringeth a snare: but whoso putteth his trust in the Lord shall be safe" and continue to seek what God assumes for your life!